Before I begin this blog today, I would like to bless my readers with a link to a free guidebook generously given by Homewatch Caregivers on ‘guide to living with dementia’ available at:
As for today, I’m really thankful to God for the timely visit that my wife’s sister, Jan, gave to my mother. What a perfect timing in time for my mother’s emotional need.
Jan was kind enough to call my wife through watsapp and let us chat with mum as we’ve been overseas for almost a month now.
It was during the chat that I realised dementia does not negate mum’s feelings, emotions and sentiments and this reinforced my previous post’s topic.
Apart from hearing mum’s emotional voice, as if she was choking her tears, and what she said about her longing to see us and wanting to go home, it seemed mum’s memory is locked in the apprehensions of her past encounters about being evicted due to the inability to pay rent, which seemed hypothetical to us.
On top of that, we heard Jan and the nurse’s account of mum’s intention to pack her clothes, last night, in expectation of having us to bring her home as she missed us dearly.
Indeed, it was heart wrenching for us to hear of mum’s emotional plight and helplessness due to her dementia.
Both me and my wife then took turns, over the phone, to console her and gave her the assurances that we’d be returning home and would visit her immediately after that and process her homecoming at the soonest possible. Thank God we managed to console mum.
After the chat, Jan sent us a photo of mum lying on the bed and it seems she looked thinner which also ached our hearts. But on the other hand, it was a consolation for us that mum is still mobile independently but with assistance.
Much later, we were glad Jan told us, via watsapp, that she prayed for my mother and she was able to respond in return by praying for Jan and still remembered to ask “Jesus” for His blessings.
This evening’s episode is another valuable lesson and reckoning for us that mum needs constant companionship and assurances as she can be left in a lurge, in the absence of her loved ones, even with the nurse’s 24/7 caregiving assistance they’re just but strangers to her, and there’s nothing like home, I suppose.