Dementia Caregiving Blog 6- Man’s Plans Are Not God’s Plan


After busying with all the renovation works for our new house, and having been away in Nepal for a month, during these past 6 weeks, something significant had transpired for mum.

We had actually planned and looked forward to bring mum back to our new home to stay with us but it wasn’t God’s Will for us to carry out our plans as my wife had been forewarned by her renal doctor, just two weeks ago, to be mentally prepared for dialysis as her cretanine level had hit   ‘400’.

As I’ve said before, our decisions made for mum, in Dementia Caregiving, are coupled with prayers for God’s guidance and we would ultimately act according to God’s Will. We strongly believe in what the Bible says in Proverbs 19:21, “Many are the plans in a man’s heart but it is the Lord’s purpose that prevails”.

It was really heart-breaking for us to convey the change of plan to mum as she was quite disappointed and emotionally shaken to hear that we can’t bring her home to stay with us. Not only did it affect mum emotionally, but my siblings too, as there was a misunderstanding initially when we moved into our new home without bringing mum along.

One thing I’ve learned is not to be afraid of telling mum ‘the truth’, no matter how painful it may be, in every situation concerning her journey with ‘dementia’. We’ve all along maintained this conviction, from day one, as we believe in God’s divine intervention, guidance and wisdom upon us.

Thank God, so far so good, as mum is progressively able to accept the disappointment of not being able to go back to our new home and my siblings are also able to better understand our predicament in having to make that painful decision.

At the end of the day, we realise that what matter most for mum is her ‘quality of life’, emotional stability, environment and most importantly, under watchful eyes and proper nursing care 24/7.

In my own personal conviction and gratitude,  I can only say,

“Thank you Lord Jesus!”

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