Dementia Caregiving Blog 7- Dementia doesn’t negate feelings, sentiments and emotions.


It is a constant discovery, in Dementia Caregiving, and I realize that, it is vital for me to  educate myself more, to better facilitate the help mum needs from time to time. I find this 2 minute animated video presentation, about understanding Dementia, it’s causes and what to do, relaxing to watch, simple and easy to understand and thought it’d benefit my readers too:


Lately, I have discovered some new developments in mum as her Dementia progressed. She seems to get mixed up in identities of her children and relatives. One minute, she thought her eldest son was her late brother, the next minute she had difficulty trying to figure out who her grandson is. Some days, her mindset seems to be quite stabilized.

But according to my observation, her feelings, sentiments and emotions are pretty much intact. For example, when her thoughts ‘revolves’ around our new house, she’d constantly touch on when she can go back to her own home and how long she’s gonna stay in the nursing home, etc.

But I’m really thankful to God that despite of her yearning to go back ‘to her own home’ she was able to transit back to the nursing home after our family’s Christmas gathering just the other day without having any emotional or sentimental unrest.

I guess it’s really important for family members to take turns in visiting mum daily, if not then as much as we can, and ensuring a flow of consistency and connection with mum in order to give her assurances and not to leave her in a sense of lurge, helplessness or disconnection with her loved ones.

And on top of that, we need to ‘go with the flow’, like for example, sometimes mum would unknowingly ask if we’re doing anything or what are the agendas for her tomorrow. We’ve learned to flow with her thoughts and meet her needs that would seem legitimate to us and not disregard her ‘revolving’ thoughts entirely but to be mindful of giving her due respect as a human being. So, whenever her thoughts revolve on her agendas for tomorrow, we would affirm her instead by telling her that we’d bring her out tomorrow for lunch or a movie show in order to maintain her feeling of ‘normalcy’, and to avoid ‘putting her in a spot’ or embarrassment, as far as her cognitive is concerned.

Having said all these, I’m mindful that apart from the human effort in ‘walking with mum’, through her dementia journey, there is also a need for divine intervention through constant prayers and exercising her faith together to constantly pray with her as a reminder of her salvation in Christ as our family’s Lord and Saviour, as she seem quite ‘unconscious’ about it in her bout of memory lapses.

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