Mum is now 91 years old. As days progressed, she seems to forget more things. But one significant thing is that she’s still cognitively able to ‘want to go home’ and keep raising up the issue every now and then. Dementia Caregiving is an ongoing process and every visit to me is a new discovery.
Surely, it breaks my heart that we’re not able to bring her home as my wife just started her HD (blood) dialysis.
On one hand we’re glad for Mum that she’s staying in a good nursing home. Although we do not expect 100% perfection in our expectations, but thank God some of the young nurses there do their work beyond ‘just a job’, with love, to the extent of calling the elderly residents ‘Ah Ma’ (granny).
On the other hand, I sincerely hope we would have the ‘conduciveness’ to bring Mum home to stay with us but sonetimes we just have to be wise in not letting our emotions blur our rationale in making the right decisions.
Hence, I try my best to make it a point to visit Mum everyday, if possible, to lessen her anxiety over things that are ‘unknown’ to her cognitive understanding due to her dementia.
I’m also thankful to God that my wife is a supportive care-giver and some of my siblings do take turns to visit Mum.
At the end of the day, knowing that every family members have their different priorities and perspectives of things in life, I can only put matters to rest by standing on this conviction:
”Do your best, and let God do the rest”
Have a good day and hope my blog journal adds value to your journey as a care giver to the elderly (or those with dementia).